Good morning, from the river, on this second day of January 2018. We are into the New Year, guns still blazing, ready to approach and conquer our intentions, goals, aspirations…Right?
I don’t know how you feel about it, but I gave up on setting resolutions a few years ago. Mostly because if I wanted to accomplish something, why wait until the New Year to do it?
In fact, about 10 years ago I began setting personal goals on my Birthday each year. These are less ‘goals’ and more like things I want to experience, or learn about; things that speak to my soul or inspire me, things that create space or quiet, activities that fulfill me on a deep personal level. Some of these have included;
- Learning about Football – The NFL – specifically the Cowboys – LOVE them!
- Learning how to cook clean eating recipes – Thank you Tosca Rena!
- Trying out pottery – I suck, but have about 8 bowls with circles on them…
- Giving painting a try – Not bad – although paint nights are alcohol fueled fabulousness! ( I was THAT girl who spilled her drink TWICE and ran out of paint…)
- Teaching myself how to sketch – I adore this past time!
- Becoming a member of a Board – I am, Community-Living Trent Highlands
- Becoming a community volunteer – I am, CanoeFM – on-air radio host beginning next week!
- Raising my voice on issues close to my heart – I have and most recently participated in the Women’s March in 2017! (awe inspiring moment)
- Swimming with sharks – did it this past May and it was EVERYTHING I had hoped for! (although my girlfriend Margie might tell you different)
What I am getting at, is that a New Year doesn’t necessarily mean you need to set hardened goals to accomplish. And in fact, EVERYDAY is an opportunity to stretch and bend ourselves towards personal fulfillment.
We have an entire 365 days in a year to set about what we need to make our lives more fulfilling – why do we need ONE night to throw that into action?
A few years ago I read a blog ( I don’t remember who or where, I apologize) about setting an INTENTION for the year ahead. I LOVE this!
An Intention… how yummy does that sound?
And so for the past two years, I have found myself gearing my thoughts and setting a quiet intention (meaning; thinking about what I need to reach a more fulfilling life) for the year ahead.
In 2016, my intention was a one word guide-post – INSPIRATION- to find it, create it, be it for myself and for others
For most of that year, this was my homing beacon….to look for it in every crevice I could and to use even the most miniscule of moments as opportunities for learning gratitude, fullness, spiritual grounding, quiet reflection and even joy. As I was learning this new skill of intention setting, I used my journal to reflect back what I was learning and how I was feeling challenged. It served as a useful tool when gaining insight about what I had learned and where I wanted to go next.
In 2017 , my intention was to ‘show up’ to my life – BECOME PRESENT – in every moment I could, in as many conversations, moments, experiences as possible.
This bad boy intention was a challenge to keep, but keep it I did! In reflection ( and I have done A LOT of that!) I showed up to some of the most challenging moments of my ENTIRE LIFE. I took responsibility for how I showed up ( not purposefully but in hind sight I am glad of it) and stood and held my space with a compassionate and vulnerable heart. This intention was overwhelming at times and found me buckled to my knees on several occasions, but it TAUGHT me the value of being present to myself and where I was at emotionally, physically or spiritually, as well as doing so for others. It taught me the value of being vulnerable and open in the most difficult of moments but also in celebrating those exciting, giggle filled adventures that made this past year a duality of experiences – extreme highs and extreme lows.
In 2018, my intention is to BE BRAVE! (thank you Brene Brown)
This intention is based on the need for me to face my fears of inadequacy, claim my space on this planet, and OWN how I feel, what I believe and how I choose to show up in this world. This intention is being set to help me release a deeply felt inner shame that has been with me a lifetime and it’s time to let it go. All of this work is done in harmony with becoming a member of the College of Social Workers, completing my Life Coaching Certification and creating growth opportunities for both myself and others in the most genuine and vulnerable way I can. This intention is banishing the fear of failure. For what I have learned over the past two years of intention setting is that you get what you ask for. Just be prepared.
AND SO I AM PREPARED…
I am studying
I am practicing all the skills I have learned along the way around self-care
I am committing to my mission in life – be of service to others
There we have it my lovely one. An intention set. What about you? Do you have something you are profoundly looking to enhance, or bring more of into your life? How do you think you can make the most of the days ahead?
Quite possibly you have already set your resolution or intention, you may even think all of this is nonsense and if so, fair enough. But if you have read this far into this article, I think you just might be seeking a little more from life. And if that is the case, I am so excited for you! I cheer you on and encourage you to practice, practice, practice the intention you have set. Because it truly is learning a new skill if you are committed to making long term changes in your life. Journal about it, get help to walk you through it, tell everyone in your inner circle about it. Make it a living, breathing part of every day.
I wish you nothing but fulfillment for 2018. Be gentle with yourself and kind with others, for that is the ONLY thing that matters with this brief dance we have on this planet. And if you can take a way a little piece of insight or give a little forward to another, then that is simply a beautiful thing!